Our beautiful , talented, caring, loving, daughter told her daddy and I she was gay yesterday. She first told me while her dad was at work, & I watched her struggle to say the words to me ;( I held her told her I loved her and that a part of me has always known. I reminded her that God doesn't make mistakes and nothing changes she's still my daughter. We both cried I believe her tears were of relief , but I think mine were and still are of fear (I won't tell her that)! She has not had a girlfriend nor sex, but she knows she's gay. I accept that!!! I sat down with her to tell her Dad there were more tears and his response was basically the same as mine. I'm trying my best to say the right things to her, but I have this overwhelming fear for her and even her 3 younger sisters (ages 13, 11, & 8). I want to protect from the cruel in this world she will surely face. I want to protect my other daughters from the back lash they will surly receive from other kids at school and possibly even family. I have all this fear inside (I refuse to share with my daughter bc I don't think it will be fair to make her feel bad for wanting to be who she is). We live in a small town & my kids have gone to the same school their whole lives. I'm not even sure if I'm making any sense right now and I realize I'm rambling....I just feel like I need to get this all out at once. The tears I have been crying have nothing to do with being ashamed of my baby girl. To tell the truth I don't know why exactly I'm feeling half the things I am. Confused, hurt, pity, fear, & it feels as if my innocent 14 yr old grew to an adult in less then 24 hrs. Do I hide these fears from her? Do I ask her what I want to when I want to? I have already told her it's her choice and only hers to decide when she wants to come out to the world, but do I ask her to let her 13 yr old sister know first? Her sisters very best friend is a preachers daughter & I don't know how their family feels about this subject. Is it even fair of me to consider my other daughters feelings??? I know this sounds silly but I feel like I'm the only one on this planet right now going through this.....crazy right?? As I told you my words are rambling the same as my thoughts are!!! I should also mention she told me she doesn't know of any other kids at school who are gay. We do have 3 ( 2 distant cousins on my side & my husband has an uncle) family members who are gay , but all much older and I My daughter doesn't even really know them so I don't think she'd feel comfortable talking to them. Should I even ask her if she wants to talk to anyone? I wish I knew all the answers, the right things to say, why I feel so guilty for feeling the way I do ;( I do know I love my daughter very much, I know she was born this way, & I know she is 100% normal!!! I found this site just by googling "My 14 yr old daughter told us she was gay" and I started reading some other parents questions & concerns. Not sure why I decided to create an acct and write this yet , but I hope in time I figure that out. Enough of my mixed up thoughts and questions for now. Thanks so much for reading and please if you have any positive advice I would greatly appreciate it.