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by Nicholas Zimmerman

As it has become commonly known, everyone who is gay is promiscuous. I mean, this is a common fact to everyone within and without the queer community. Gays just can't commit in a monogamous relationship, and legalizing marriage, or even giving them rights of a domestic partnership, would tarnish the precious sanctity of the holy union joining two loving individuals as we have come to know it.

This is, of course, all complete bullshit. I just wanted to put that out there in print so someone would view it and see how it actually looks. I mean, I have read up on all of the latest on the issues in Vermont, and I just don't see why this is even an issue, unless people don't realize how ridiculous it seems to be arguing whether two loving, consenting, committed individuals can't be legally recognized.

Marriage is an issue that I never thought I would be condoning or even wanting, but it has recently come to my attention because I have been in a relationship for over a year now, and we have actually discussed marriage and the legalities involved in being a couple. It really upsets me that if I were to have surgery, my partner couldn't even visit. I can't even imagine the other difficulties that will be involved in getting a house together. There are also other reasons that legal recognition would be great, such as joint tax filing and adoption, which is a whole issue in and of itself.

Currently, I am wondering whether this marriage thing will even pass in Vermont. I did have my hopes up when it was being discussed in Hawaii, but of course, the state did not grant the right, and if they did, how long would it actually take for other states to follow? I know that the conservative state I am currently living in would not ever pass laws permitting the legal partnership of my boyfriend and me, or any of the other gay couples I know, even though one of the couples has been together longer than any of the heterosexual couples I've known. They've been together about sixteen years, and that, right now, is almost unfathomable to me. Their commitment to one another has outlasted the marriage of my parents, or any of my friends' parents for that matter. Their partnership is also in a better state than any of the heterosexual marriages I have known of.

All this basically comes down to, is civil rights. I suppose that gay liberation in this country has come a long way, but not as long as it has come in places such as Berlin. Berlin celebrated the 100th anniversary of their gay liberation in 1996, so they have actually had a little of a head start on gay rights and marriage, similar to other places in Europe. I know that the United States is actually only a little over 200 years young, but could you imagine people fighting for gay rights around the turn of the century or when women were fighting for their equality and right to vote?

I believe that our time will come for equal rights, but it will take time and some determination on our part. Gay Berlin didn't become that way overnight. We do have a struggle ahead of us, and really must contact state officials voicing their concerns on marriage, or any other issues for that fact. We need to be heard. We have a voice. So, until this time comes, I'll be keeping an eye on the real estate prices in Vermont.

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Nicholas, 20, is a student at Purdue University in West Lafayette, Indiana. He can be reached at nic79@iname.com.


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