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Jonathan Z.

April 2000

It's Best to Start at the Beginning

Hi there! This is the first column I've written, so I'll start by introducing myself. My name is Jonathan, and I'm a junior at the University of Florida. I'll be turning twenty this April 26. I'm majoring in Human Resource Development with a minor in Education, and I still don't know exactly what I want to be when I grow up. But that's ok, I think most of the more interesting people I've known didn't know what they wanted to be when they grew up either (and some of them were in their 40s)!

Hi Mom, I'm Gay

Back in November I was finally brave enough to tell my family that I was gay. The world didn't come to a screeching halt as I somehow had visualized it would. They were a bit surprised, but very supportive. At the time I was dating someone, so it was probably a lot for my parents to swallow all at once.

I can't exactly remember when I realized I was gay, or when I even knew what the term meant. That probably means it has been a while. I'm comfortable with who I am, but it did take me a while. I think the thing that helped me the most (and still helps me) is having incredible support from my friends. There is nothing quite like going out to Perkins at 2 a.m. and being able to commiserate with your friends about how terrible all of your love lives are and feel completely comfortable about having that discussion.

Oh and Mom, I'm Single Again

Well I haven't really handled this part yet. My boyfriend and I broke up about three weeks ago and I still haven't mentioned the fact to my parents. I think part of it is that I am used to having them be totally ignorant about my romantic feelings. Part of it is that I know my mother will want to know every detail and have a three hour conversation about how life will go on, etc. Please don't get me wrong, I love my mother, but there are some conversations that I am just don't care to (or am not ready to have) with her.

My friends on the other hand, give me an earful whenever we hang out. "He wasn't good enough for you anyway," or "Don't you answer his page," are a sample of the less colorful commentaries that I've heard during various times we've all hung out together.

I guess I'm semi-single, since I'm still kind of in this weird relationship with my ex-boyfriend (I still even find the term kind of odd), where we spend a lot of our time together, and sleep together sometimes. We don't have any kind of physical aspect, but we've gotten so used to sleeping together that it just still happens as a matter-of-fact.

So I'm semi-single and available for any good and decent men out there! So far I haven't been hitting the bull's eye as far as dating goes, but I'm not going to throw in the towel quite yet.

Ride, Ride, Ride that Pony

Well, I'm a student, but when I'm not going to class or living a real life soap opera drama, I'm involved in residence life on my campus. For those of you who don't know, res. life is for on-campus housing, AKA living in the dorms. I'm an officer in our campus residence hall association, at least until our banquet at the end of April. Our association goes to state, regional, and nation conferences for this kind of thing, and at those conferences we do crazy games (Ride the Pony - you can email me for details on that one), present programs, and sit through long and drawn our political business meetings.

I just got back from one of those conferences, our regional No Frills conference (No Frills = No Fun, it's a conference minus the programs and crazy games). For those of you who have ever been to any type of student conference, you've probably heard of the infamous term 'conference hookup'. Now I know where you think this is going... but I didn't do it. Honest! Well... I didn't do it, but I did think about it. Maybe if we had actually slept at all during that weekend something might have happened.

So that's what I do with my free time. I've made lots of friends and gotten to do all kinds of fun stuff, so I think its all worthwhile - and living in the dorms isn't so bad... except for the communal showers.

So in Conclusion

To finish off this rambling column, thanks for reading this far. If you found any part of this interesting please let me know. If you didn't find any part of this interesting please let my professional sniper know. You can reach both of us at jonathanz@mail.com. Let me know if there is anything you think I should talk about in a column too... Heaven knows I had a fun enough time figuring this one out. Have a good month (Happy Birthday to me) and with any luck you'll hear from me again!

Later!

Jonathan


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