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Wanderer

August 2000

Hello, my devoted readers (all 2 of you)

It's the middle of summer and the sun is blazing. I find myself staying indoors a little more these days just to beat the heat. I have come across many gay youth over the internet, a lot of whom who have sought me out, because of one of my Web sites, looking for help or a virtual shoulder to cry on. It seems I'm getting e-mail like this every other day, as opposed to four years ago when I was lucky to even receive one after a few months.

Anyone who has been following my short, pointless articles knows that I've been going through a Hell of sorts, trying to confront myself with my sexuality, thinking about how my parents would deal with things if I were to ever fall in love with another woman, knowing that I would be disowned, not only by my parents, but by most of the people I know and love, and so on.

For whatever reason, this seems to reverse itself when I meet others who are going through the same thing. For myself, I fear that there will be no end to this suffering. For them, I gain an air of optimism, helping them through their times of need.

Everyone I've helped so far has done very well, escaping their fears, and confronting the truth. Yet I feel like a hypocrite of sorts, because I know that I'll probably never gain enough strength to face my loved ones, for example, if and when the time comes. But enough about me. If I continue, this will end up hogging most of Oasis' server space.

In a recent Supreme Court decision, it has been decided that the Boy Scouts of America may exclude gays from being scout leaders and, seemingly, members.

We all know how silly the thought is of all gays being a "bad influence" on children. Many fundamentalists believe that "homosexual" automatically means "wild, sex-addicted, child molester." However, what I'm about to say may surprise you:

I agree with the decision.

WAIT! Before you throw the tomatoes and rotten produce, listen to what I have to say!!

This ruling gives more rights to private organizations. It is the same right that gives us, as private citizens on private property, the ability to say "get off of my lawn" to anyone who feels the need to post anti-gay signs or to protest (i.e., Fred Phelps.)

If we didn't allow for this to happen, then the government would be able to decide what may or may not be "appropriate." And what they deem to be appropriate may not go along with how we feel ourselves.

It's as simple as that.

Ciao,

The Wanderer

The_wandering_one@bigfoot.com


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