November 2000

As I’m sure you know, there is something of a time lag between when an Oasis article is written and when it’s published. As a result, I often try to leave actually my writing until fairly late in the month so that I can put down my most recent experiences. The downside to this, of course, is that I’m often rushing to get my article done. I could try a more staggered approach, write a little every week or something, but then whenever I look at what I’ve written, it seems woefully out of date. So month after month, I end up rushing to meet the deadline. (And never meeting it!)

The last few months have been particularly problematic since my laptop has been acting up. I finally found a place where they work on computers and it turns out that my processor had come dislodged from the motherboard so the computer couldn’t start up. It’s been patched up but I have to be careful about how I carry my machine around. Since I use a different machine where I’m working, I can just leave the laptop at ‘home’.


Home is actually ten thousand miles away. Being so far away means I can do things that I wouldn’t normally do. The thing is, I’m not sure I could go back completely to the way things were, the way I was, when I finally go back.

Someone I made friends with at the weekly LGBT meetings had a house warming party last week. It was very nice. I had an interesting chat with someone who likened Something happened though, that I think is worth mentioning. The host’s name is Ira and he has a boyfriend called Bryan. Now the thing about Bryan is that he has a voice which doesn’t leave much to the imagination vis a vis his sexuality. This is something his friends and boyfriend tease him about and he doesn’t react well to this. The thing is I remember when I was younger and how I didn’t like it when people made fun of the way I talked. There is a difference though. When Ira jokes about Bryan’s voice, he’s not doing it out of malice.

Still, I feel bad that I laughed at the joke.

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