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Mordoc

November 2000

You know those label maker thingys (yes that is a technical term) that have a tape and a puncher thingy and a dial that you can turn and you can make labels and paste them to objects? Well I always hated those things. I always used to steal my mom's label maker because they were so much fun to punch the labels and spin the little dial, but I hated the labels. I never wanted to stick them to anything. Knew that when I put the labels on something they would be hard to get off and I would never have the perfect label for anything. Either I would say something was mine, and then want to trade with a friend, or put a name on a container and then fill it up with something other than is on the label, it was just too much planning and organization (neither of which I had).

Well, I bet you can guess what my article is going to be about this month: Labels and why I hate them. People have trouble understanding abstract ideas, or the fact that things fluctuate rather frequently. They need concrete ideas, things that they can trust to be the same, but what they don't realize is that there isn't much in this world that is concrete (except maybe sidewalks). If I tell my parents that I don't like celery in something, they tag me as not liking celery at all, but what I really mean is that I don't like celery in this particular soup, but later I will be enjoying my celery stalks with peanut butter and raisins. This actually does pertain to other things, not just celery.

These labels carry with them a lot of power. Once people get something in their minds one thing then it is hard to change that image. To one of my friends, I am their gay friend. That is how they see me. They have me pigeon holed, they see a label stuck on me, and can't see past it. I can really only feel sorry for this type of person.

I try to break those kinds of ideas, and make people see what is really there, not just their brand. Basically I don't like to get stuck in a rut, which can easily happen, but all you need to do is just look at it from a different angle or keep your mind open.

Well, I'm in a kinda bitter life sucks type mood right now so this column is a little random, I'm trying to get rid of the stress in my life, but it seems to just pile up and overwhelm me. And I know the source of almost all my stress, SCHOOL. Hopefully I'll be able to sort out my life in a week or two and not have as much work to do.

Well, I like quotes, and here is my favorite this month:

"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change" - I have no clue who said this

Send me email, or something. I got absolutely no responses from my last column, write to me and tell me what you think, column suggestions, or just to say hi or chat. My address is Mordoc2000@hotmail.com and my AIM screen name is Mordoc 13. I really am a fun guy to talk to, and I'll talk about pretty much anything.

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Mordoc is 17 years old and gay living in the San Francisco Bay Area. He is surviving his senior year while trying to get into college.


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