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Lee

January 2001

"Is he gonna be Gay?"

Introduction:

I guess I will start by introducing myself to all of you. I am a 23 yr. old bi female that is married to a wonderful man (to a bi man) and we have a son who will be 5 next month. I also have a wonderful girlfriend.

I raise parrots and I went to school to be a Veterinary Technician. I love music, animals, cooking, singing, writing and having a good time.

I am somewhat closeted still (Yet I am not ashamed of who I am). I have told most of my friends and some of my family that I am bi...I have not as yet told my Mother and Father that I am bi. I am thinking about telling them. (Well, at least, my mother) At this point, I am not sure what I want to say or how to say it. I think my mom at least will be ok with it. (This is nerve wracking...)

The article I decided to write is about this delicate topic of coming out and how I could have come out to my mother today. (Dec 21,2000)

Is he gonna be gay?

My mother said something today, something that I found funny. As we were driving in her car (Coming back from some last minute Christmas shopping with my sister and my niece) my son was playing with a new toy that my mom bought him. Amongst the chattering and all the "Typical" boy noises, you know the ones all the car sounds and big truck sounds. Well here comes the funny and somewhat shocking part. My mom said out of the blue "Well he's not gonna be gay" That may not sound funny to some but to me it is. For one thing it is the last thing I thought "My mother" would ever say. (Remember, she does not know that I am bi) We all proceeded to have this conversation about "Being gay" I asked my mother "If she was worried he was going to be gay" and she said "no I am not" I said "Well if he is gay that is his choice and it did not bother me, as long as he is happy."

At this point in the conversation things were going well and I wanted to tell her that I was bi. I guess I was just a big chicken and I could not do it. (Sigh) My mother was saying how she did not have a problem with people being gay or bi or whatever. It was killing me. I wanted to tell her...But driving down the road I did not think that was the best time to tell her. (I thought maybe she would drive off the road) I wanted to tell her and get it over with. I did not do it. I guess I will have to leave that for another day.

I will keep you updated on my progress of telling my parents that I am bi.

Quotes:

Here is one of my favorite quotes.

...For many of us stay walled because we are afraid of being hurt. We are afraid to care too much; for fear the other does not care at all.
-Eleanor Roosevelt

Closing notes:

You have to be happy with who you are and what you are before anyone will accept you for you.

Live Life to the fullest!

Lee

If anyone wants to comment or just drop me a line or anything else feel free to E-mail me at Pink-Panthers-Girl@Excite.com


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