March 2001

"The most important things to say are those which often I did not think necessary for me to say--because they were too obvious."-Andre Gide

I discovered something today. I was sitting in the car with a friend of mine--this friend and I have been through a lot, and if two people ever should have stopped speaking, it would have been us. We were unforgivable to each other. But we're fine. We're close. We understand each other to some extent. Which is cool. But, we were discussing all of those things that have happened, and what we discovered is that we could discuss it. And I think we both felt better.

It was weird for me, because it was a leap of faith to trust her. And normally I don't trust like that, so it was definitely going on a limb on my part. But, I will say this for her: she deserved it. And then I realized she didn't know I felt that way. So I told her, I told her that I think she's become a better person, someone to be respected and trusted. I think she's well on her way to becoming a person who is worth knowing. And I'm very proud of her. And she smiled, and I was so happy for her. Because she is all the things I told her she was, probably more. And it led me into this line of thought, about how nice it is to be able to forgive... and how it sucks when you don't get the chance to fix things.

"If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we would find in each person's life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility." --Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

"Only the brave know how to forgive; it is the most refined and generous pitch of virtue human nature can arrive at." --Laurence Sterne

I think that what it comes down to in the end is that we've all suffered because of decisions we've made in the past. And yes, we should probably have to have some recompense for our crimes, but how long must one suffer for the same crime? I understand that she broke the trust of many people, more specifically people who had consistently put their trust in her, but there's a time to forgive, perhaps forget?

I guess it's none of my business and I don't understand the full magnitude of the situations, how much she hurt people, but I still think that the healing process should probably have begun. I don't know. I know that a lot of my friends have had enough of her, but what if she's different? I guess I'm out of my face.

"Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation. The other eight are unimportant." --Henry Miller

On a totally different topic, I've decided everybody needs to get laid. Sex has been such a constant topic of discussion lately. And I'm perfectly willing to admit I could use it, I know most of my friends could use it. I've been talking about sex for the last month. Enough talking.

In any case, have a good month. Don't get into too much trouble. Oh, and I just wanted to mention to anyone who reads this, if you get a chance, download/buy/steal a friend's CD, but listen to Lifehouse's "Hanging By A Moment", its an amazing song.

As Always,



PS-Thanks to everyone who wrote me last month, I always appreciate the mail, even if I don't always respond. (Things got nuts last month.) But I'm still all about getting e-mail, so drop me a line. Let me know what you think of me, I'm all ears. Peace.

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