March 2001

Hello everyone! Well March is upon us already. The first three months seemed to have just passed up by without a second glance.

I don't have a lot to say this month. I guess I am gonna talk a little bit about Homophobia...I had a little run in with it the other day...It was in a more mild form than it could have been...but still I did not appreciate it.


By definition homophobia is...

A: Homophobia is a wish to restrict the human rights of persons who has a homosexual orientation and or who engages in homosexual behavior. This includes what many believe to be the most important human right: the right to have their marriage recognized and registered by the government.

B: Homophobia is the irrational hatred. intolerance and fear of lesbians, gay men, bisexuals and transsexuals, cross dresser, etc etc...

It has a real tendency to make me mad when someone is homophobic. I had a run in with it the other day...It was not directed at me but at my husband. This 17 year old kid that is working for my husband came over to our house one day to deliver some wood... and he started talking to me and asking me questions about my hubby. (The week before he had been at our house and had read my first article I wrote for Oasis that said that my hubby was Bi) He asked if he was really bisexual? I told him that he was and asked him if he had a problem with that? He said he did and that he could not understand how another man could find love in another man's asshole. I told him it was not all about sex...but he just could not handle it. I gave him a hypothetical question..."What would you do if you found out that your best friend was gay or bisexual?" He said with a horrified look on his face "I would have to kill him...I would not be friends with him anymore." I asked him if he would just throw a lifelong friendship out the window over something like that...and he said he would. I mean how selfish and narrow minded is that? Give me a break! I mean I thought we were supposed to love one another, and not judge one another.

This kid knew I was bisexual and he had no problem with that, of course. He even went so far as to say he would be OK with his own girl friend being bi AS LONG AS HE COULD WATCH. If he could not watch then he would dump her. There again...How selfish and narrow minded can you get...

Ahhh, but I guess life goes on and I have to get on with it. One thing about this is it has made me stronger, made me more aware of who I am and more proud of who I am.

Closing notes:

Well things are going well for my family and I. I did break up with my girl friend. I got tired of her standing me up with out even calling to tell me why or even saying she was sorry. So in short I told her she can take a long walk off a short pier...

Oh, well I will live and I know there is someone out there for me if it is meant to be.


Someone once said:
What goes around comes around.
Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you have never been hurt.
Dance like nobody's watching.

you only gave me a smile, my name you did not call, and yet it made my day the brightest day of all. But smiles elicit smiles ad we each won a friend. For something free I'd say that's quite a dividend -Perry Tanksley


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