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Tyler

April 2001

Coming Out is so hard to do!

Well, I am still getting pressure at work about what my sexuality may or may not be. I just don't understand straight peoples constant need to know who someone sleeps with. Okay, maybe not all straight people are that way, but the ones I work with tend to be. I still have not denied nor confirmed who I really am. I don't want to lie about it so I just try to change the subject or laugh it off. It is not that I care if they know, it is what may or may not happen to my career and possible future promotions and stuff. Oh well, I guess for now I will just let them guess.

Coming out to my Parents and Friends.

As I am sure most of you know, I have already come out to my parents. In fact it was March 8th of last year. I didn't do it face to face, I did it in a letter. I felt I wanted to get all my thoughts out without forgetting something or crying the whole way through it. This worked out well for me, and I am glad I did it this way. Now, however, I feel it is time for me to take the next step. I am going to start telling some of my friends. I can no longer keep up the lie to them. Always hanging out with them and there boyfriends or girlfriends. It is about time they know why it is I never have a girlfriend with me like them. It would be easy to type up a little letter and just kind of let them all read it, but I think I am going to do it in person this time. There is a lot less I need to explain to them then I did my parents. I think I will start with the girls, they should take the news a lot better then the guys.

Next Month, The Letter

In my May article, I am planning on including the letter which I gave to my parents when I came out to them. I think that maybe by doing so, some people who have yet to come out to their parents may benefit by seeing what I thought was important for me to say. I don't know everyone's personal situation, but in my situation, I feel that the letter I wrote was good, and got all my ideas out. I read the letter now, and I see some stuff I would like to change, and I am sure that everyone will see stuff that they don't agree with me on, but everyone has there own ideas. There are even a few statements in the letter which I feel different about now.

Let me know what you all think. Would you like to see the letter? Should I keep it to myself since it is such a private thing, or should I share it with everyone so that they may learn something from it. Please email me and let me know! tyler4us@hotmail.com

See ya'

Tyler


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