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Sam Barnhouse

June 2001

Hello all!! I would like to start out by saying that nothing significant happened in my life last month, until just two days after the deadline for the month of May. But, I will update everyone on the events that have been happening in my life. I also would like to talk about crime and love / relationships.

First of all, my Mom started traveling around the Central US with her parents visiting her Grandmother, and my sister. She was down in Eglin AFB, FL, where my sister lives, and my sister forced her to talk to me when I called down there. Well, it went well, and she then started to want to talk to me several times. When she got back to Bowling Green, KY, she began calling me several times. About a week after that, I was surfing around on Ebay, and found what appeared to be a beautiful silver baritone for sale. I went ahead and placed a bid for it, and told Mom about it. She said that she would even go ahead and help me pay for it. Well, this is a significant advance from not even talking to me whatsoever. Fast forward to this past week (I am writing this on 5/4), my Mom and Grandmother came in in the beginning of this week on Monday, and it has been a success all around. We are getting along, and life is good. I did, however find out that she is taking two different types of depression medication. She would not tell me what it was, but she did show one of them to me.

Flash forward ten days. The day after Mother’s Day. I am writing this at work, since work is slow right now. On the Saturday before Mothers Day, we (my Mom, my Aunt, and my Aunts boyfriend) were outside putting up a makeshift fence to keep the dogs in the yard. Well, afterward we (my Mom and I) went into the garage to try and find a place for a bed we took apart the previous night. My Aunt pointed out that almost everything in a particular area was mine. When my Aunt went to help her boyfriend, Mom and I went and started moving some stuff around. Then, she began to go through some of my boxes. I asked her why she was going through my stuff and she simply replied “Because.” Well, she continued, and I told her that I did not want her going through my boxes. I did this gently, and with tact too, because I didn’t want to damage our frail relationship. She then got all mad and stormed out of the garage and headed back into the house. I went over to my Aunt and asked her if I overstepped my boundaries. She did not think so, but did say that I should go talk to Mom and tell her that I did not mean anything harsh by it. Well, I did, and it just made matters worse. I ended up crying the entire night, and I did not want to sleep in the same house with her at that time. I felt like going down the street and sleeping in the dugout of the local baseball field. But I didn’t. I slept in my cousin’s room, and didn’t sleep hardly at all.

Mothers Day. Everything went well. No one argued, and no one said anything negative all day. In fact, I had found some green tomatoes at a farmers market nearby, and bought 15 for all the family. Fried green tomatoes have always been a big family favorite. My Mom was here, both of my Aunts, my grandmother, and all of my cousins, so as you can imagine, there were a lot of people here. Everyone was getting along, laughing, and play games, etc. The day went without a hitch. That Saturday, though, was very emotionally tiring, as you may well know. I do feel that releasing all of your tears is very good for you from time to time too. Oh, BTW, I am proud to announce that I have now lost almost as much weight as I want to! I have maneuvered myself from 180 lbs. to a fit 160. I want to start working out now, and build my muscle mass. I am only benching a puny 150 now, though. Now you are caught up to date with all of the events in my life. Except for one. I have been trying to go up to the Wal-Mart in Commerce every now and then so I can see a cutie of a man up there. He and have been exchanging flirts every now and then, I wish that I could see him more often.

Crime

I am not an inherently violent person. I do not commit any crimes, and I always try to obey the law to the best of my ability. But I was recently made aware of a law that I cannot help but break. I have broken it before, and I am going to be breaking it several times again in the future. I am talking about a law that prohibits homosexual sex within the state of Texas. The Statutes of the State of Texas, Penal Code, Chapter 21, Section 06, states the following:

§ 21.06. Homosexual Conduct

(a) A person commits an offense if he engages in deviate sexual intercourse with another individual of the same sex.

(b) An offense under this section is a Class C misdemeanor.

Acts 1973, 63rd Leg., p. 883, ch. 399, § 1, eff. Jan. 1, 1974. Amended by Acts 1993, 73rd Leg., ch. 900, § 1.01, eff. Sept. 1, 1994.

To view this on the Internet, click here: http://www.capitol.state.tx.us/statutes/pe/pe002100.html#pe002.21.06.

I was enraged by this law. Such a law would not exist if equality were rampant, but I guess that American society still lives in the dark ages with regards to the LGBT community (at least in Texas!). If I am sounding a little extreme, please understand that this upsets me. A few years back, in the state of Oklahoma, a judge in the State Supreme Court ruled that such a law was not constitutional, and he ruled that the state cannot judge what two consenting adults do behind closed doors. But, I live in a state that had now President George W. Bush as a Governor. Hopefully with this new Governor that has been appointed, some sweeping changes will come about. Already the Senate has approved a Hate-Crimes bill, it just needs to pass approval of the House now.

Love / Relationships

I do not consider myself an attractive man. I certainly am not by any means as fit as I should be. However, that is soon changing. I have put myself on a strict diet regimen, and I have been working out a lot more than I have in previous years. But, what really bothers me is the obsession with the physical body. I am looking for a man that is in my relative age group, 17-25 years of age. That is probably the only requirement that I have. I believe that the love that is shared between two men should be based upon a spiritual connection, not necessarily one of a physical stature. Granted, good looks are a plus, but in my view, they are not necessary. When I see two beautiful men walking down the street holding hands, I can’t help but wonder if they are only together because they are both pretty bois, or if they actually have a spiritual bond. That is something that I can tackle next month, because I did not think that this article was going to be this long… So, I will leave it here, any correspondence is welcome!!

Love,

Sam

sambarnhouse@hotmail.com

P.S. My birthday is on June 27, and I will be leaving my teenage years behind me finally. Oh, also, since I am now working at Cox Communications in Sulphur Springs, TX, if I have any readers in the area, feel free to stop by the front office and say Hey!


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