Are you: A Gay/Bisexual Man? Under 25 years old? Interested in talking about same-sex relationships?
Then I need your help. I am a graduate student at Cornell University, studying gay relationships among men under 25 years of age.
There are two parts of the study. The first is a brief questionnaire that should take between 20-30 minutes. This questionnaire is completely confidential, and anonymous if you prefer. The questionnaire asks about your relationships (if you have had any) and general questions about being gay or bisexual. If you are only interested in completing a questionnaire, you do not need to do the second part of the study.
The second part of my research is an hour-long interview about relationships. You do not need to be in a relationship, and even if you have never been in a relationship you can still participate. The interview can take place over the phone and is completely confidential.
If you are interested, please e-mail me at email@example.com, or call me at 607-533-9194, and include your mailing address or your e-mail address if you prefer. I will then send you a copy of the questionnaire. I will provide you with a self-addressed, stamped envelope to return the questionnaire.
Also, if you know anyone else that you think may want to participate, I can send additional copies of the questionnaire, or you can forward this message to them.
If you have any questions about the study or what to expect, you can e-mail me or call me.
Thank you very much for your help.
Please complete each of the following questions. Attempt to answer all of the questions; if you are not sure of the answer, please make your best estimate. If you do not feel comfortable answering any particular question, you may leave it blank.
Age: _______ Race/Ethnicity: ______________________ Highest year completed in school: ____________ Describe where you grew up (circle one): urban suburban small town rural Describe where you live now (circle one): urban suburban small town rural Please rate how you currently identify yourself: _______ 0. Exclusively Heterosexual 1. Predominately Heterosexual, only slightly Homosexual 2. Predominately Heterosexual, but significantly Homosexual 3. Equally Homosexual and Heterosexual 4. Predominately Homosexual, but significantly Heterosexual 5. Predominately Homosexual, only slightly Heterosexual 6. Exclusively Homosexual Please indicate your age when you first told each of the following people about your same-sex attractions. If you have not told such a person, mark "no," and if no such person exists for you, mark "n/a." _____ Mother _____ Father _____ A Gay Friend _____ A Lesbian friend _____ A Straight Male Friend _____ A Straight Female Friend _____ A Sibling (please circle if brother or sister) _____ Second Sibling (please circle if brother or sister) _____ A Coworker _____ A Teacher _____ Therapist/Counselor _____ An Aunt _____ An Uncle _____ A Male Cousin _____ A Female Cousin _____ Grandmother _____ Grandfather _____ A Priest, Rabbi, or Minister Are you currently in a long-term relationship that you consider romantic? ________ Is this with a man or a woman? _______ How long have you been in this relationship? ________ Do you live with this person? _______ Age of first sexual experience with a man: _______ Number of male sexual partners in your lifetime: ___________ How many previous romantic relationships with men have you had? _______ What is the longest that you have been in a relationship with a man? _______ At what age did you first have a romantic relationship with a man? _______ At what age were you first aware that you were attracted to other men? _______ At what age did you first label yourself as gay or bisexual? _______ Age at first sexual experience with a woman: _______ Number of female sexual partners in your lifetime: ___________ How many previous romantic relationships with women have you had? _______ What is the longest that you have ever been in a relationship with a woman? _______ At what age did you first have a romantic relationship with a woman? _______ Experiences Please indicate how often you have participated in the following experiences: Never Very Frequently 1 2 3 4 5 _____ 1. Joined a gay organization. _____ 2. Marched in a gay pride parade. _____ 3. Gave money to a gay cause. _____ 4. Read books or articles positive to gay issues. _____ 5. Received the support of one or both parents for being gay. _____ 6. Received the support of friends for being gay. _____ 7. Felt like being a gay male separatist. _____ 8. Attended a gay bookstore, video store, or adult bookstore. _____ 9. Disagreed openly when a homophobic joke was made. _____ 10. Rejected the notion that you must act masculine. _____ 11. Rejected the notion that you had to be homosexual or heterosexual. _____ 12. Made a new mental category for the way you think of your sexuality. _____ 13. Accepted your ethnic identity, while also accepting being gay. _____ 14. Attended a religious service or organization after coming out as a gay/bisexual man. _____ 15. Discussed being gay in a large group or classroom setting. _____ 16. Attended counseling for issues about being gay/bisexual. _____ 17. Attended gay cultural events, such as a gay film, poetry reading, or concert. _____ 18. Attended a gay bar or coffeehouse. _____ 19. Read a gay magazine or newspaper publicly. _____ 20. Physically expressed your love to someone in public (i.e., held hands, kissed, hugged). Attitude Inventory Please read each of the following statements carefully and then indicate the extent to which you agree with the statement, given the following scale: Completely Agree Completely Disagree 1 2 3 4 5 _____ 1. I am not uncomfortable when I am in a conversation with a gay man and he touches me. _____ 2. I would not mind if my boss found out I am gay/bisexual. _____ 3. Whenever I think a lot about being gay/bisexual, I feel depressed. _____ 4. Homosexuality is not as desirable as heterosexuality. _____ 5. When I am with my friends who know I am gay/bisexual, I do not worry that they may think of me as a stereotypical gay/bisexual man. _____ 6. I am glad to be gay/bisexual. _____ 7. Gay men do not dislike women any more than heterosexual men dislike women. _____ 8. When I am sexually attracted to a close male friend, I feel uncomfortable. _____ 9. I am proud to be a part of the gay community. _____ 10. Male homosexuality is a natural expression of sexuality. _____ 11. Marriage between two gay men should be legalized. _____ 12. My homosexuality makes me happy. _____ 13. Gay men are overly promiscuous. _____ 14. When I am sexually attracted to another gay man, I do not mind if someone else knows how I feel. _____ 15. Most problems that gay men have come from their status as an oppressed minority, not from their homosexuality per se. _____ 16. When women know that I am gay/bisexual, I am afraid they will not relate to me as a man. _____ 17. Gay lifestyles are not as fulfilling as heterosexual lifestyles. _____ 18. I would not mind if my neighbors knew that I am gay/bisexual. _____ 19. It is important for me to conceal the fact that I am gay/bisexual from most people. _____ 20. Whenever I think a lot about being gay/bisexual, I feel critical of myself. _____ 21. Choosing an adult gay lifestyle should be an option for children. _____ 22. If my straight friends know of my homosexuality, I would be uncomfortable. _____ 23. If men know I am gay/bisexual, I am afraid they would begin to avoid me. _____ 24. Homosexuality is a sexual perversion. _____ 25. If it were made public that I am gay/bisexual, I would be extremely unhappy. _____ 26. If my peers know I am gay/bisexual, I am afraid that many would not want to be my friends. _____ 27. Adult gay men who have sex with other males under 18 years old should be punished by law. _____ 28. I am not afraid that those who know I am gay/bisexual view me as overly effeminate. _____ 29. If given the option, I would choose to be heterosexual. _____ 30. When I think about coming out to peers, I am afraid they will pay more attention to my body movements and voice inflections. _____ 31. I do not think I will be able to have a long-term love relationship with another man. _____ 32. I am confident that my homosexuality does not make me inferior. _____ 33. I am afraid that people will harass me if I come out more publicly. _____ 34. When I think about coming out to a heterosexual male friend, I do not worry that he might watch me to see if I do things that are stereotypical gay. _____ 35. If I were heterosexual, I would probably be happier. _____ 36. Most gay people end up lonely and isolated. Interpersonal Inventory As you respond to the following statements, think about a close, same-sex relationship that you are currently involved in or an important close, same-sex relationship you had in your past. Please rate each statement on the following scale: Completely Agree Completely Disagree 1 2 3 4 5 _____ 1. I would like my partner to be with me when I am lonely. _____ 2. My partner is honest mainly because of fear of being caught. _____ 3. I am afraid my partner will hurt my feelings. _____ 4. I am better off if I do not trust my partner too much. _____ 5. I sometimes wonder what hidden reason my partner has for doing nice things for me. _____ 6. Even though my partner tells me many stories, it is hard to get an objective account of things. _____ 7. I feel relaxed when we are together. _____ 8. There is no simple way to decide if my partner is telling the truth. _____ 9. In our relationship, I am occasionally distrustful and expect to be exploited. _____ 10. When serious disagreements arise between us, I respect my partner's position. _____ 11. I do not believe my partner would cheat on me even if he could get away with it. _____ 12. We are very close to each other. _____ 13. My partner can be relied on to keep his promises. _____ 14. I do not show deep emotions to my partner. _____ 15. My partner pretends to care more about me than he really does. _____ 16. There are times when my partner cannot be trusted. _____ 17. In our relationship, I have to be alert or my partner is likely to take advantage of me. _____ 18. My partner is likely to say what he really believes rather than what he thinks I want to hear. _____ 19. I seek my partner's attention when I am facing troubles. _____ 20. I wonder how much my partner really cares about me. _____ 21. I face life with my partner with confidence. _____ 22. I get a lot of sympathy and understanding from my partner. _____ 23. I would like my partner to be with me when I receive bad news. _____ 24. I can express deep, strong feelings to my partner. _____ 25. It is safe to believe that my partner is interested in my welfare. _____ 26. I feel comfortable expressing almost anything to my partner. _____ 27. My partner really cares what happens to me. _____ 28. In our relationship, I feel I am able to expose my weaknesses. _____ 29. I share and discuss my problems with my partner. _____ 30. My partner would tell a lie if he could gain by it. _____ 31. I tell my partner some things of which I am very ashamed. _____ 32. I believe most things my partner says. _____ 33. In our relationship, I am cautious and play it safe. _____ 34. I discuss with my partner the things I worry about when I am with other people. _____ 35. I listen carefully to my partner and help him solve problems. _____ 36. My way of doing things is apt to be misunderstood by my partner. _____ 37. It is hard for me to act natural when I am with my partner. _____ 38. My partner can be counted on to do what he says he will do. _____ 39. My partner is truly sincere in his promises. _____ 40. My partner is sincere, and practices what he preaches. _____ 41. I touch my partner when I feel warmly toward him. _____ 42. I feel my partner misinterprets what I say. _____ 43. It is hard for me to tell my partner about myself. _____ 44. My partner does not really understand me. _____ 45. I talk with my partner about why certain people dislike me. _____ 46. I can accept my partner even when we disagree. _____ 47. I feel comfortable when I am alone with my partner. _____ 48. My partner treats me fairly and justly. _____ 49. I am afraid of making mistakes with my partner. _____ 50. The advice my partner gives cannot be regarded as being trustworthy. _____ 51. I sometimes stay away from my partner because I fear doing or saying something I might regret afterwards. _____ 52. I understand my partner and sympathize with his feelings. Describe your fantasy of an ideal relationship for you. ****************************************************************************
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