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Reverend G. William Ames

January 1997


Well, I hope everyone enjoyed the holidays and now on to the New Year!! I remember stating last month that I didn't receive any email and I'd like to take this opportunity to thank those folks out there that took the time to email me with their questions and concerns.

The first email I received came from a young man from the evangelical Christian persuasion. He expressed concerns that gay behavior is an abomination to God and that he believed that gay orientation was learned and not innate. Unfortunately I chose not to get into an email confrontation with this young man as this issue of nature or nurture has been tossed back and forth "ad nauseum" as our founder, Jeff Walsh, put it. I agree with Jeff on this point.

This column is not a column for debating the nature or nurture of homosexuality. Its a column to support gay youth who may have questions about their spirituality or religious beliefs and their sexual orientation. So if you want to debate the nature or nurture question, as I told this young man, please go elsewhere. I've been pulled into this type of debate before and though most that argue the point are well meaning, the bottom line is that young gay people are still being turned away from main stream religions and are running to alternatives, some positive but many are negative, cult-like groups where these kids are further victimized and made to view themselves as less than human and worthless. My focus here will stay on helping those young folks hang on long enough to look beyond the double talk to the true spirit of Christianity. I hope I'm doing at least that. To end this part of the conversation I'd like to remind folks out there about the greatest commandment of all:

But when the Pharisees heard that he had silenced the Sadducees they got together and, to put him to the test, one of them put a further question, 'Master, which is the greatest commandment of the Law?' Jesus said to him, 'You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and the first commandment. The second resembles it: You must love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments hang the whole Law, and the Prophets too.' (Matthew 22:34-40)

John 3:17 also states:

For God sent his Son into the world not to judge the world, but so that through him the world might be saved.

OK, so lets stop the judging baloney and the useless and tireless debates and get on with loving and caring for one another in the manner that is intended by God. Put aside the silliness and the egotistical doctrinal crap on both sides of the fence and lets extend our hands in friendship to all who are reaching out. Its about time we stopped hurting one another and did something constructive; something to make life a bit happier and a bit warmer for one another. Does that sound OK? I hope so because love is one of the greatest gifts that God gave to us to share.

Until next time, may the grace of our Lord be with your spirit. May you have a happy and healthy New Year. Thank you and God bless you. You know where to find me. Email is always welcome and it will be great to hear from you! Pray for me as I pray for you. Until next month...

If you are depressed, despairing and need help, please don't wait to get help. Call a licensed professional such as a doctor, counselor or social worker as soon as possible. Some things in life take a little bit more than we have to give to work the issues out. Look in your local telephone directory for listings of professionals near you or if its an emergency, don't hesitate to call "911" or the telephone operator. You're important and we don't want to lose you!

Questions about AIDS, call the National AIDS Hotline at 1-800-342-AIDS. Peace!!

Please note: If anyone would like to supply an essay regarding the book I'm in the process of writing, please email me with a request for more information. Thank you.


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