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Derik Cowan

January 1997

An Update

Hey all,

My life of late has been dreadfully busy, so I didn't have time to put together an article, so I thought I'd just give an update on how things have been going in my life.

First and foremost, my grandmother died in December, of cancer. It cast quite a pall over the Holiday season for me, seeing as my grandmother was one of the few people in my family who still treated me the same after my parents disowned me over two years ago, and I miss her terribly. For those of you who have been to my homepage, I have a tribute to her that I wrote in my archives there.

On a less depressing note, my grandmother's illness and death has had something of a positive impact on my relationship with my parents. In particular, my dad and I seem to be working toward some sort of reconciliation. For Christmas this year, he gave me a diamond earring, and he also paid for my ticket out to my grandmother's funeral. We had a couple of very good conversations over the past month, and while I don't know if we'll ever fully agree on things, I think we do have the possibility of working to some place where we can relate. As he said of the gift of the earring, "I didn't approve of you getting your ears pierced, but since they are I figured you might as well have something classy..." Oh, and I found out my dad reads my articles here (Hi Dad!).

My mom I think is still a bit more of a problem in that I think she still is hoping that I'll somehow become straight. A close female friend of mine went with me to my grandmother's funeral, and my mom seemed to latch onto the possibility that she could be a possible girlfriend. That added a lot of tension to the experience that I could've done without, but at the same time I was grateful for the shoulder to cry on.

I've also somehow managed to find myself in a new relationship. Actually M and I have been seeing each other since October, but I've been away from home so much in the past month or so that it seems like it's only been a short time. We both have very busy schedules, so we decided it would be easier to keep our relationship open and non-monogamous, but it's nonetheless an exciting new development in my life.

I think that's everything important right now. Hopefully I'll be less busy next month and get an article put together...


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