July 1997

John and Sophie

Damn! Oasis must be good luck for me! Since I started writing for Oasis in May, I have come out to my best friend with wonderful results, and, in this month's column, I'll be telling you about two more coming outs ... one was to another gal friend, and one was to my new boyfriend!

OK, best news first. I have suspected that "John" was gay for a while; he was the guy I said was a possibility at the end of my May column. Anyway, I was at my friend "Mary's" birthday party, and "John" was trying to figure out who I liked. He managed to get of me that the person was at the party, but I told him that I wouldn't tell him because now was not the time. He said he *really* wanted to know, but I told him that it just wasn't the right time. He kept bugging me about it, so I told him that I'd think about it. After thinking about it for a little while, I decided that I would tell him who I liked, if I could get him to tell me whether or not he was gay.

We went outside and started walking up the street. I told him that I would tell him if he would answer a question for me first. He said he would. I told him that he had to be completely honest with his answer, and that he couldn't get mad at me for asking the question and that he couldn't hate me for asking it either. He agreed and asked me what the question was.

After a bit of hesitation I said, "Are you gay?"

"Well ... yeah."


"So who do you like?" he asked.

"Think about it."

He thought for a few moments. "Me?"


"Cool, man."

We then realized how far away from "Mary's" house we had walked, and we turned and went back.

Later, we happened to be sitting on the couch next to each other. He turned to me and said, "Are you serious about what you said?"

"Dead serious. Are you?"



We exchanged phone numbers and talked on the phone all day the next day. Then, on Memorial Day, he sent me an e-mail asking if I wanted to go out with him. I answered him with the song lyrics to a song named "Between Now and Forever."

Anyway, I am, of course, EXTREMELY happy about this. I never actually thought that I would find myself in a relationship during high school; my high school is quite homophobic. I figured that I would have to wait until college, but I have been happily proved wrong. I just hope this lasts.

More good news! I came out to another friend, "Sophie." I didn't really plan this out like I did with "Mary", it just sort of happened. I decided to come out to "Sophie" based on a comment that she once made in French class.

We had to read a dialog in our books called "Le Tacot" (The Jalopy) and one of the characters in the dialog answered a question by saying "Oui, oui, oui, et oui." "Sophie" had commented on that by saying, "Well, he must be gay. Only someone gay would answer like that." I told her that she shouldn't stereotype. She said that she was only kidding, and that she actually had a few gay friends. I thought that was cool, of course, but I just said "Oh."

One day, "Sophie" and I were in the library talking. I asked her if she remembered the comment that she had made when we had to read "Le Tacot." It had been about a month, so I wasn't sure if she would remember. She didn't, but I jogged her memory.

Then I asked her if it was true that she had gay friends.

She said, "Why, do you think I'm gay?"

"No. I was just wondering if it was true."

"Oh; yeah."

"Cool," I said. "Do you want another?"

"You're gay?"



"Sophie" took it much differently than "Mary" did. Mary had lots of questions, probably because I was the first person who has ever come out to her. But "Sophie" took it in stride.

Sorry this was such a short column ... I procrastinated and wrote it the day it was due ... I'll try to write more next month.

Well, it seems that there have been some problems with my writer's page, so if anyone wants to e-mail me, feel free to do so at: orrymain@geocities.com

Until next month,


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