A Fresh Start
As I mentioned last month, my boyfriend Mike's little brother David would be living with us after Christmas, but things didn't quite work out as we had planned. First, Mike and I realized what a pain in the butt it is to have to move someone when there's snow on the ground, and second we thought it might be better for David if he was settled into his new home before the holidays started so that things would be as easy as possible for him. After all, he would be going through some big changes in a short period of time!
Mike's parents and I made an appointment to discuss things with his new school's principal (I was nervous and I'm not even a student!) and we went over some of the problems he had had at his old school and also the fact that I would be serving as a foster parent of sorts. The principal was actually very helpful to us and was glad to be able to help David, which was a very pleasant thing for all of us! He's the head of a school with about half the student's of David's old one, and he told us that he knew every student by their first names...I think that's rather impressive. We made another appointment for myself and David, and then we made plans to move him.
That meeting went on a slightly different course, as the new principal had already discussed David's situation with his old school's principal, and it seemed to have left a negative impression on him, something David can do without. He made it very clear to David that he won't put up with the things he pulled at his old school, and said "We deal with rule breakers very swiftly here, young man!". David just shook his head. Actually, that made me a bit scared too!
He then handed David a copy of the student handbook with the suggestion of memorizing it, and then told us that he'll be seeing us again on the first day of classes in the new year and wish us both Happy Holidays and a Happy New Year and we were on our way, which was a huge relief to both of us.
David just moved in a few days ago, and he seems to be adjusting to his new home rather well, but his younger brother is having a difficult time with his big brother leaving since they did a lot together, and that's something that we never really thought about. I feel really bad about that, because we neglected his feelings, so I'm going to put an effort in to making sure that they spend lots of time together, because even though David's not living there he's still very much a part of that family...in fact one thing he brought with him was a family photo that he keeps on his dresser. Nice kid.
Mike and I were a bit worried about him seeing us having sex, but we have a rule about knocking on closed doors before entering, and we even made up two "Do Not Disturb" signs for our doors for those times...I'm sure David likes his privacy as much and Mike and I do!
David is a nice kid to be around now that he's away from his family, and he seems to have calmed down quite a bit since he moved in, no problems at all. I know that we are doing the right thing by having him stay with us, but I wonder if things are going to change once "The Honeymoon" is over? On a positive note, he has already met another boy his age that goes to his new school, and starting things off with a new friend is a very good sign.
Believe it or not, I love David as much as I do Mike, just in different ways, and I pray for his well being. His parents have placed their trust in Mike and I, and we can't let them down.
Their hope is in our hands now.
Happy New Year everyone!