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Jason Lyons

February 1998

Hi everyone! How ya doin? I know it's been a while. What have I been doing? Taking a vacation of sorts. I've been contemplating my future in terms of career. I've been studying my ancestry to some degrees and basically just chilling.

So why am I writing now? Well number one, I miss it. Secondly I'm seeing the light at the end of the holiday tunnel. I don't know how many of you work in retail, but October through December is hell.

So what does the new year have in store for me? Hopefully more writings for Oasis and possibly some other publications. Hopefully college in the fall.

It seems like it has been forever but it hasn't. Its only been two years since I came out to myself (meaning: decided to deal with my dual attraction to men and women) So far I've been through the majority of the 'typical' steps to being 'out' and a few steps I've made up myself. And occasionally I take a step or two back towards the closet. You know the saying "Three steps forward and five back." Overall though, up to this point, I'm satisfied with how things have gone.

Now I've reached the top of a new hill. I wish to help others as a career, a daily part of my life. I want to do something more fulfilling, not just for others, but for myself. For instance I would like to be involved more directly with LGBTQ culture in the area where I live. I would need to do some searching for this and undoubtedly be outed in the process. I've been doing a little checking so we will see how it goes.

Over the past few months things have gotten kind of interesting on the homefront. As you may or may not know, I am out to a handful of friends but not any of my family. In the past whenever negative remarks were made by the 'fam' in the direction of homosexuality, I've simply ignored it. It has never been in a context that I felt like arguing about at the risk of outing myself. That has changed now. The other day my brother, sister, and father started discussing how homosexuals flaunt themselves. I spoke up and said "You mean like heterosexuals?" They were commenting on Ellen DeGeneres, saying she was flaunting herself. So I compared it to Cosby show, The Single Guy, Suddenly Susan, Allie McBeal. They just stood there and stared at me. If it weren't for work, they'd probably still be standing there staring at me. Nobody has mentioned it or anything else remotely related since. I can not tell you how good it felt to stand for what I believe in. Now I'm just waiting for the questions and inquiries to begin.

Until next month. Stay True...

Jason


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