March 1998

So here I am back for my second column; kind of like leftovers, no matter how hard you try you just can't get rid of me. I've been thinking about this topic since I came home in December, and I still have no clue. The topic, you ask? The Great Boyfriend Hunt. Oh the topic's no problem, but I don't think I can manage to bore you for an entire column with the details of my love life (or my attempt at one). So as filler I thought I would bore you with my random thoughts. You're excited, aren't you?

First off, thanks to Jeff for actually publishing me. It was pretty cool actually seeing my stuff in print, it's not like I've never been published before, but its always cool when it happens. Second, Jeff did a great job editing my piece, I did ramble quite a bit in the unedited version. OK, now for random thoughts...

So, I was thinking about it last month, well really since I've been reading Oasis, and I am still wondering why we have no transgendered columnists... someone out there has to be transgendered. If you're the person, WRITE FOR OASIS. We need more diversity as it is (I'm one of how many gay male columnists?) I am seriously close to being that person, just so we can have more diverse columnists. Talk about the price of fashion...

So now for The Great Boyfriend Hunt. I haven't had a date in almost a year, I know I'm not the only one. Sure, I've gone out lately with a couple of guys and looking back on it, I suppose you could consider it a date, but it didn't feel like it. To be honest, AOL has done wonders for my social life. I've met a couple of great guys, everyone from the gay dream date (the firefighter) to a desperate freak. The funny thing is whether its on-line or real life, everyone seems to have the same complaint, no boyfriend. So I don't understand why we're all single. If anyone has the answer, please e-mail me... So meeting all these guys on-line and then in person has given me an interesting perspective.

I met this one wonderful guy, we'll call him Adam, I loved talking to him on the computer and called him a couple of times on the phone and loved his voice. So I had this image of what he must look like, so the day came for us to meet finally. We agreed to meet at this local bookstore and told each other what we would be wearing. To make a short story long, he didn't match what I expected. Sure he was good looking, but I was expecting a younger looking version of him. He's a great guy and I can talk to him forever (and have) but because he's not the pretty boy type I'm used to dating, I'm having a really hard time making up my mind about dating him. So I'm guilty of it too...

You saw this coming didn't you? It's unfortunate, but sometimes looks are everything. We approach people based on their looks, not their personality. I'm not saying we're all holding out for Joel West (I used to use Fabio, but apparently no one is holding out for him), but we don't talk to ugly people do we? Adam isn't ugly, he's average. But that doesn't seem to be good enough. I don't know if I would have approached him on the street; but I got to know his personality before I knew what he looked like. I wish it could be like that all the time, but I'm a realist. I really would rather date someone with a personality then a great body, although both would be nice. But where is that person?

I've gone to the bars enough to know that Mr. Right isn't there. I go to gay events looking, but Waldo isn't there either. Not that I want to settle down with a guy named Waldo, it just sounded funny. So I just don't know, but I'm still looking. If you know where that person is, or if you are that person, would you e-mail me?

As always, I'm Eric, 23, I'm from Michigan (the Detroit area), and my hobbies include listening to music, reading, writing, chatting, and just being social. So whoever you are, e-mail me with your thoughts, love letters, flames, and whatever else at: Bigfish758@aol.com

And of course there's always room for more contestants in The Great Boyfriend Hunt. E-mail me for details.

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