August 1998

Me, Myself And I

Welcome, Oasis Readers, to the soap opera about a lesbian teen named Elizabeth and her trials and tribulations of life, love, and happiness in her small New Jersey town.

Well, I'd never go as far as to say my life is a soap opera, nor should I bore you with the minute details in my life. Instead I come and join Oasis with the hopes of inspiring you, comforting you, to give you some words that you can print off the computer and keep in your journal...stuff to think about, maybe what is needed later down the road. First though, a little about myself.

I am 15 and will be a junior this year in public high school in New Jersey. I just got home from a summer program at Brenau University where I was completely out, however that in not the case back home. This past April I came out to my parents; they are wonderful people and in June joined P-FLAG. I am also out to much of my family and about six friends from various places.

"Love is love." Through the past two years of discovering my true self, I came to the realization that love is one of the greatest emotions of all, and that to be completely true to yourself one must recognize that you can't surpress feelings of love, and that by doing so only leads you to destruction. I have faced this and learned that the fact I am in love with other women is a completely natural and beautiful thing.

"I am what I am, I love who I am." This too, is one of my favorite quotes. I mean how the hell are you ever going to reach your full potential if you are there pretending to be somebody else? I know how hard all of this is to overcome, to learn how to love yourself and accept yourself, but being here reading this, means your on your way if you haven't already found it. RuPaul has a great quote, "If you can't love yourself, how the hell are you going to love somebody else?"

Well, for all of you out there who need a listening ear, I am hear and have been through it all. I invite e-mail and comments, I will reply to everybody at singforjoy@hotmail.com . Until next month, I'm signing off.

With love and care,



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