October 1998

October's Overture

So many things to write about makes this column more of a potpourri than anything else does. Here's to the start of a great month.

I received, during September some very touching words that encompassed a little gay history, the present, and justice. I felt that some of these words needed to be shared and thank the author who I will keep anonymous:

"What we are struggling to reach is not a new and untried form of social equity. Prior to the Christian invasion, homosexuality was an accepted form of lifestyle. Study the troop arrangement for the soldiers from Thermopoly, review the history of most native American tribes that not only were matriarchal, but considered any tribe member who was different from the norm in any way as having been specially blessed by god. Read about the royal courts of any western or oriental country and you'll discover that the closest advisors to the throne were homosexuals, including Alexander the Great.

You have some real strong social factors in your favor during your crusade. You are not slave- as the negroes, asians, or natives of any country were. Nor are you chattel- as women and children have traditionally been considered; You can serve on juries; You can vote; You can own property; Your pay checks are made out to you-not the oldest male in your clan; You can run for elective office; What you are trying to attain is the right to marry, raise children, have access to hospital visits to you partner; share property, choose a career that doesn't have a policy against sexuality, receive medical benefits, tax breaks, become an part of a family that may have closed its doors because of your difference, and make life free and open for the gays, lesbians, and bi-sexuals that even today are being born."


I think that the opinion stated about is a very clear one and holds a wealth of truth. We as queer teens, the future of America, are only part queer. We are also so many other things; actors, singers, dancers, painter, team players, debaters, athletes, scholars, babysitters, and cooks, newspaper deliverers and lawn care crews. We work at Taco Bell, the Gap at ShopRite, or for our parents. We go to school five days out of the week. We all have had crushes, some first loves, some many loves. Some of us are in relationships, others are still looking, but we are all human. We all have feelings, emotions and understandings. We also have anger, love, sorrow and joy. Sometimes I think we let our differences overshadow us so much that we see them as more of a difference than a similarity.

But the truth is, you are never alone in your fight. Believe it or not, there is always one person who is fighting along side of you and although you may be blinded by the battle, you can still hear a voice. I've learned some of the best medicine is a good night's sleep, a good laugh, or a good book. A lot of the time, all it takes is talking to somebody, or writing your feelings down.

However, in looking to the future, staying within the big accepting cities, the San Francisco's, and Rehobeths, staying within the accepting religious sects, and even stores will only harm us. It is our job to prove to the world, that we are as "normal" as the rest of society. And the true way to do that, is to be out and open in the small and medium sized towns, to have a voice on the school board, the town council. To explain your positions, to have patience, to let people know that your secret fantasy is NOT to play softball with their daughter, go to theaters with their son or come and redecorate the house (which is still my mother's greatest fear.) It's our future, and who knows what the future will hold.

My love and wishes as the leaves begin to fall. Feel free to e-mail me at singforjoy@hotmail.com. I always respond. Remember that you are never ever alone, but always in my heart.

Signing off,


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