February 1999

Well, I took a month off, but I'm back, and I've totally refined my view of things. I've been doing some serious thinking about many gay issues, and one constantly came up: Gay stereotypes. The stereotypical gay guy wears tight and flashy clothes, talks in an extremely annoying, lispy tone of voice, is obsessed with sex and are limited only to one night stands. The stereotypical gay may also crossdress, and if he's not in a gay bar, abusing underage boys or having sex, he's masturbating.

Maybe my description is a little extreme, but that's the way the media has made us look. I'm sure there is a small minority of people like that, because there's always someone to fit the stereotypes. The real gay people are not absolutely obsessed with sex, may masturbate a little, but it is possible for them to fall in love, not just have one night stands. Real gay people just look like anybody else, you couldn't pick one out in a crowd.

Then I also thought about how the stereotype has improved a lot. I feel 1998 has been a great year for accurate portrayal of gays. Many TV shows have had gay couples, or gay guys as the main focus, and also as side characters. I saw a show, Veronica's Closet, where the were two guys who had been friends for a long time. I forget their names so, let's call them Bob and Joe. Everybody around them knows they're both gay, and they don't seem to care. The comical situation is that neither one of them will admit their homosexuality to themselves, but they're both sure the other is gay. Bob is engaged, and Joe is trying to be a good friend by trying to get him out of the arrangement because he knows Bob is gay. He asks some of his friends for advice by asking, "How do you tell a friend that he's gay?" The other people have trouble responding because they all think Joe's gay. Joe and Bob get into an argument that goes something like this:

Joe: I've got something to tell you.

Bob: I know.

Joe: You do?

Bob: Yeah- you're gay.

Joe: I'M gay? I thought you were gay!

and so on.

Eventually Bob comes out, but Joe won't admit it.

There is also the show King of Queens, which I haven't really seen, so I don't know much about it. The point is that a lot of these new shows depict gays as ordinary people. (Mad about You and Friends if you want shows with lesbians in them). I think it's a big step in removing gay stereotypes.

Now -- a progress report on my friend. I had a sleep over with him recently and we went through the customary rituals of who everybody likes. He wouldn't tell me. He told me it would "change the way you view things." I asked him to be specific and put his hands over his ears and sang loudly ala Liar Liar. We were watching Austin Powers, and during the Penis Enlarger scene, he asked me how long my dick is. He was really persistent, and later he asked me if I though Dr. Evil's son, Scott, is cute. I could use some suggestions on how to interpret all this.

This is a question I would like as many answers to as possible. I read somewhere that supposedly, gay people can't whistle. I decided to find out if this was true or not. I can't whistle, and neither can four of my friends, including the one mentioned above. If you would send me an answer to this question, I'd really appreciate it.


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