What a month I had, I went from a total high to a very, very low, I'm having a really hard time at the moment and would like to think about something other than being gay for a change.
A friend of mine sent me a good luck list with things to make life a little easier and a little less stressful so I thought I'd pass this on to you, the readers of Oasis.
Donna was the friend who sent this list to me and I'd just like to take this paragraph to say to her, thanks for being a support to me over the last few months, without you I would never have made it through the last few months, I love you to pieces and hope I will never ever lose you as a friend.
Before I go any further I'll just tell you a little bit about Donna, she's one of my best friends in this world who I met through work, I came out to donna on the 15th Dec and she took it really well, jumped in the bed beside me and gave me a great big cuddle, since then she's always been there for me and always been there for me to talk to, I really do wish everyone out there has a friend like I have in Donna.
Anyhow lets get on with this list.
1 - Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
2 - memorize your favorite poem
3 - Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have, sleep all you want.
4 - when you say "I love you" mean it.
5 - when you say "I'm sorry" look the person in the eye.
6 - be engaged at least 6 months before you get married (maybe not)
7 - believe in love at first sight
8 - never laugh at anyone's dreams
9 - Love deeply and passionately, you might get hurt but it's the only way to live completely.
10 - In a disagreement fight fairly, no name calling
11 - Don't judge people by there relatives
12 - Talk slowly but think quickly
13 - when asked a question you don't want to answer smile and say "why do you want to know ?"
14 - remember great love and achievement involves great risk
15 - call your mom
16 - Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze
17 - when you loose don't loose the lesson
18 - remember the 3 R's Respect yourself, respect others, responsibility for your actions.
19 - don't let a little dispute or a chain letter injure a friendship
20 -when you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps
21 - smile when picking up the phone the caller will hear it in your voice
22 - marry a man/woman you like to talk to as you get older there conversation skills will be as important as anything else.
23 - Spend some time alone
24 - Open your arms to change, but don't loose your values
25 - remember sometimes silence is the best answer
26 - read more books watch less TV
27 - live a good, honorable life, then when you get older and think back you'll enjoy it a second time.
28 - Trust in god but lock your car
29 - A loving atmosphere in the home is so important, do all you can to create a tranquil atmosphere.
30 - in disagreements deal with current issues don't bring up the past
31 - read between the lines
32 - Share your knowledge its the way to immortality
33 - be gentle with the earth
34 - Pray, there's immense power in it
35 - Never interrupt when you are being flattered
36 - mind your own business
37 - Don't trust a man/woman who doesn't close their eyes when you kiss
38 - once a year go somewhere you've never been before
39 - If you make a lot of money use some of it to help others
40 - Remember not getting what you want is sometimes for the better
41 - learn the rules then break some
42 - remember the greatest relationship is where your love for each other is greater than the need for each other
43 - Judge your success by what you gave in order to gain it
44 - Approach love and cooking with abandonment
Hope some of this helps but feel free to email me any time at Craig.firstname.lastname@example.org
See ya next time,