March 1999

Looking Ahead

What a month I had, I went from a total high to a very, very low, I'm having a really hard time at the moment and would like to think about something other than being gay for a change.

A friend of mine sent me a good luck list with things to make life a little easier and a little less stressful so I thought I'd pass this on to you, the readers of Oasis.

Donna was the friend who sent this list to me and I'd just like to take this paragraph to say to her, thanks for being a support to me over the last few months, without you I would never have made it through the last few months, I love you to pieces and hope I will never ever lose you as a friend.

Before I go any further I'll just tell you a little bit about Donna, she's one of my best friends in this world who I met through work, I came out to donna on the 15th Dec and she took it really well, jumped in the bed beside me and gave me a great big cuddle, since then she's always been there for me and always been there for me to talk to, I really do wish everyone out there has a friend like I have in Donna.

Anyhow lets get on with this list.

1 - Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

2 - memorize your favorite poem

3 - Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have, sleep all you want.

4 - when you say "I love you" mean it.

5 - when you say "I'm sorry" look the person in the eye.

6 - be engaged at least 6 months before you get married (maybe not)

7 - believe in love at first sight

8 - never laugh at anyone's dreams

9 - Love deeply and passionately, you might get hurt but it's the only way to live completely.

10 - In a disagreement fight fairly, no name calling

11 - Don't judge people by there relatives

12 - Talk slowly but think quickly

13 - when asked a question you don't want to answer smile and say "why do you want to know ?"

14 - remember great love and achievement involves great risk

15 - call your mom

16 - Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze

17 - when you loose don't loose the lesson

18 - remember the 3 R's Respect yourself, respect others, responsibility for your actions.

19 - don't let a little dispute or a chain letter injure a friendship

20 -when you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps

21 - smile when picking up the phone the caller will hear it in your voice

22 - marry a man/woman you like to talk to as you get older there conversation skills will be as important as anything else.

23 - Spend some time alone

24 - Open your arms to change, but don't loose your values

25 - remember sometimes silence is the best answer

26 - read more books watch less TV

27 - live a good, honorable life, then when you get older and think back you'll enjoy it a second time.

28 - Trust in god but lock your car

29 - A loving atmosphere in the home is so important, do all you can to create a tranquil atmosphere.

30 - in disagreements deal with current issues don't bring up the past

31 - read between the lines

32 - Share your knowledge its the way to immortality

33 - be gentle with the earth

34 - Pray, there's immense power in it

35 - Never interrupt when you are being flattered

36 - mind your own business

37 - Don't trust a man/woman who doesn't close their eyes when you kiss

38 - once a year go somewhere you've never been before

39 - If you make a lot of money use some of it to help others

40 - Remember not getting what you want is sometimes for the better

41 - learn the rules then break some

42 - remember the greatest relationship is where your love for each other is greater than the need for each other

43 - Judge your success by what you gave in order to gain it

44 - Approach love and cooking with abandonment

Hope some of this helps but feel free to email me any time at Craig.m@dtn.ntl.com

See ya next time,


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