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21 today!

Like Azul Love, I am 21 today too!

It started out with dinner with friends whereupon I received a shot glass with a rainbow flag on the side, a bottle of lube (for solo use or with friends I was told), and some chocolate body paint in a bottle that was the shape of a male torso and junk. That was followed by a trip to a local straight strip club whereupon my face was sandwiched by boobs (it was her birthday gift to me) and it was okay. Not my taste, but oh well. There was beer and I was content to be with friends.

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Straight Privilege

Hey guys! I was listening to Crash and Bailey and they read a paper titled "Straight Privilege". It's an idea paralleling that of "White Privilege", which was written to show the legs-up that white people have. "Straight Privilege", by contrast, shows how straight people are advantaged in todays world. It was written by straight-identifying students at Earlham College in Richmond, Indiana. Without further ado, an excerpt from Straight Privilege":

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Halloween Fabulation

Thursday and Friday I went to parties. Thursday's party was fun and I knew some people there, but it wasn't as much of a sausage-fest as I would have liked, especially for being a gay party thrown by gay guys. But it was fun and I saw great firemen, drag queens, Bam Bam, etc.

Friday's party was a bust -- I got there by the time everyone was drunk and almost out of beer.

Then Saturday afternoon I saw that my friend had an away message saying that she was going to Rocky Horror Picture Show. I had never seen it before then so I went with her and three other friends. But of course you can't go to the movie without dressing up. We spent the rest of the afternoon shopping for girdles, blouses, fish-nets, high heels (for the guys), and short shorts. After I was dressed, a friend put on make-up and after it all, I looked almost exactly like Eddie Izzard. It was great. At first I was going to dress up as Brad Majors, but my friends persuaded me to go in drag. I thank them for it. :)

Where do you fall on the Kinsey Scale?

0 - exclusively heterosexual
0% (0 votes)
1% (1 vote)
3% (2 votes)
3 - equally bisexual (no preference of one over the other)
6% (5 votes)
26% (20 votes)
44% (34 votes)
6 - exclusively homosexual
21% (16 votes)
Total votes: 78
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Coming Out Stories

UPDATE: I would like to thank everyone who has submitted a story. I have received 10 so far and am still seeking more. Remember, the strength of Oasis' coming out page relies on your input.

Hey everyone! I'm going to be amassing a list of coming out stories, tips, tricks, etc (basically anything that relates to coming out in today's society, wherever you may live). It's a tough thing to do and new Oasians are always asking how to go about it so I think it would be great if there were a page on Oasis for such a topic, but we're lacking in it right now. And in order for it to be great, I need all the help I can get.

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Aqueous Transmission

Prologue: I recently saw Beautiful Thing and love it. Go watch it.

It is depressing to know that so many people my age have either lost their virginity or have a significant other. Meanwhile I have not had one single boyfriend. Maybe depressing is not the right word. Upsetting? Off-putting? It makes me feel belittled and disparaged in a way. It makes me feel as if I am doing something wrong. I know that I am comfortable being who I am (or am I if this is the content of my posts?) so I am not about to change who I am.

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Of Spirits Dimished

If you happen to have an attention span sufficient to recall my last post, you'd know that I was crushing for someone. And crushed I am. We'll call him Dave.

I called Dave yesterday and asked if he wanted to go to an improv comedy group on campus with me and told me that he wasn't a fan of improv. He did, however, invite me to go running with him and I accepted.

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Hello, everybody. I see some new faces, some old. I'm one of the (more-) original Oasians (#111 to be exact). I fell off the Oasis map for personal reasons but am now back because this is truly a unique site.

Since I last left I entered my junior year of college, found Ubuntu Linux (many thanks to Adrian for turning me Ubuntu and to GNU/Linux in general) and have since taken a foray into the Mac OS/X world (and love it, mostly for the superior integration of hardware and software). I'm still a Geology and Spanish double-major and plan on studying in Madrid, next semester.

The real reason I'm writing this blog, however, is to have a place to vent. The first of my major woes is politics. I suppose you could call me a polito-masochist -- that is to say I am interested in politics and immerse myself in it daily but am disgusted with how often it disappoints me. Bush has fucked up so much it's inconceivable that he hasn't been impeached or recalled already. It's inconceivable that he even won any elections, but that's further in the past. For my sake as well as America's and the World's sake he should be kicked out of office so fast he doesn't have time to take up drinking heavily again. For my sake because, since I'll be going to Madrid, I'll have to explain myself to Spaniards who want to put up a verbal fisticuff even though I'm a liberal.

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Anatomy of a Republican Argument

After watching too much CNN and election news in general, I think I have figured out the top 3 arguments of Republicans. I know, I know, generalizing is a bad thing, I feel that these argumenents stick out like sore thumbs.

  1. It could be worse

    I agree -- it could certainly be worse. But just because it can be worse does not in any way mean that we should just shut up and be content with the dismal state of things. Yes, in Iran political dissention is like committing suicide, and in Iraq and Afghanistan they're just getting their voices, but that doesn't mean that we shouldn't strive for perfection, should we? I think it's especially worth noting that while Republicans control the Senate and the White House that this tactic is still used. It's akin to saying "Sit down, shut up, don't complain."

  2. September 11th

    September 11th was horrible for everyone in the world, not just Republicans. The French newspaper Le Monde declared that We Are All Americans while German Chancellor Schroeder pledged "unlimited solidarity". Yet Bush was able to turn worldwide mourning into near worldwide hatred for the US. It seems as though the Republicans use this as a diversion to do things that really undermine the integrity of the US people and the Constitution (Patriot Act, for example). If you are able to see The GOP Convention in a Nutshell, then you'd be able to see how often 9/11 is invoked (and how often Saddam is mentioned instead of Osama). They even chose New York City a few days before September 11th to have their convention. They're trying to make 9/11 into an excuse rather than a national travesty. Nine eleven should NOT be used as a partisan ploy.

  3. Flip-flop

    I've heard this term so much that I feel sorry mentioning it, but I must to illustrate a point. Republicans accuse Kerry of flip-flopping, when flip-flopping would have helped Bush. After declaring that Iraq was a threat because of the weapons of mass destruction, Bush could have apologized to the nation, to the world community and United Nations and asked for help so that we wouldn't be in this quagmire we are now. Even if Kerry was a flip-flopper, I'd rather have someone who, presented with new facts, would be able to make a more informed decision on what's to be done instead of sticking his head in the sand.
    Even the whole Republican Party flip-flopped. Republicans used to stand for fiscal responsibility and small government, a gov't that balanced the books and kept its hands out of people's business. Now Bush has racked up the largest national debt and wants to write discrimination into the Constitution -- the very Constitution that is meant to protect our rights. That's why the first 10 amendments are called the Bill of Rights. Bush is neither compassionate nor conservative.

Now go vote!

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ATTN all Oasians: if you are 18 or older and a US citizen, get out and VOTE!

Vote for whomever you want, but I won't sit here and pretend that Bush is any friend of ours. If you feel like proving me wrong, get to the polls and cast your vote. If you feel like proving me right, get to the polls and vote. Never has an election been so necessary, so your vote means more than it hopefully ever will.

Vote or Die! Sean Puffy Combs will hunt you down. :)

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Hi everyone!! Miss me? I don't blame you. :D

Spring break was a blast. I went up to NEW YORK CITY!! I visited lots of places: the Met, the American Museum of Natural History, Penn Station, Chelsea, Times Square, Serendipity (the cafe in the eponymous movie), 5th avenue, and loads of other stuff. I took the subway everywhere but didn't see one big rat. I have pictures too.

I bought a car too! A red Honda del Sol. It's a '93 model and cute. I'll get pictures up once I can get my car clean enough to take pictures of it. It was a steal too, much cheaper than Kelley Blue Book value. But it also takes nearly a grand in repairs, possibly more. C'est la vie. It has a manual transmission. It took me a couple days to get the hang of it, but it's much more fun. I'm still perfecting my technique though.

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She was beautiful, she was loved.


February 5, 1993 – March 8, 2004

Dallas was quite possibly the most perfect dog. Well, no, no one's perfect, but she was nonetheless exemplary. Always one for the underdog, I took an immediate liking to her as she was the only pup left. She was what some could call "the runt of the litter"; she was underweight, her snout was longer and narrower than most collies, and her jaw didn't fully meet up. She didn't care. After all, she didn't have to clean up the water that fell out of her mouth after she drank. A trivial matter in light of recent happenings.

Where are you spending Spring Break (or a variant thereof)?

59% (38 votes)
Big city
20% (13 votes)
Small city/countryside
11% (7 votes)
2% (1 vote)
8% (5 votes)
Total votes: 64
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Lily, Robbie Kirkland

Hey everybody! My good friend Lily (AIM: pumpkincakemoose) has a good friend who has a website and she set up a forum for Lily. The forum is centered around gay rights, marriage, and sex. I've already posted something on the marriage topic. Check it out.

I was exploring Google's features and typed in "" to see who all links to Oasis and I came across this site. It's a site in memory of a child who committed suicide because he could not stand the ridicule. It's a shame that some people feel the need to take themselves out of life because it temporarily is too much for them to endure. If only America and its leaders weren't so homophobic perhaps this nation could progress to another era of enlightenment.

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I've got to admit it's getting better

I've got to admit it's getting better /
Getting better all the time.

Okay, so I stole that from Royal Philips Electronics of the Netherlands. But it still applies. I was asked to be part of my university's honors college (great for resumes), asked to be part of two nationally recognized honors societies (Alpha Lambda Delta and Phi Eta Sigma, of which I am now a member), and I am going to be recognized for making the Dean's list here at IU. Yay me.

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