Daily effects of straight privilege
This article is based on Peggy McIntosh’s article on white privilege and was written by a number of straight-identified students at Earlham College who got together to look at some examples of straight privilege. These dynamics are but a few examples of the privilege which straight people have. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer-identified folk have a range of different experiences, but cannot count on most of these conditions in their lives.
I was scrollign the comment sheet, looking for commentors close to where I live...when this one stopped me. It really hurts me how much this person hates. Thought I would post it...for the hell of it.
There is soo much I want to say to this woman.
Bonnie Middlebourne WV This is a complete outrage that this country has come to this, rewarding freaks or rather just blatant ignorance with special days...when is "straight people day"? and "male-female parents family day"? What about my civil rights? Why can't my husband and I (who are in a monogamous, endorsed by God marriage) do whatever we want in public without fear of arrest? If we are to endorse the acts happening at these "gay days" gatherings, at Disney and elsewhere, we might as well just get rid of any and all moral laws and judgments against any type of public sexual behavior that now exist in this society.
I have no clue what to do. The only firend that I have come out to, I also told her who I've had a crush on off and on for the past five years. I am better friends with, and see the girl more often then she does, so it was okay. I thought earlier this year that her one friend (she is close to two girls at my school) at least figured out that I like her, but now I'm not sure. I backed off a bit when I got that feeling that they figured it out. BUT she always seems to return whatever I give. She makes me smile when I see her, and neither of us are known for smiling alot...and she also seems to be overly happy when she sees me. I was walking out of the locker room for practice, and she was in the one corner changing for swimming...and I didn't notice her. Then when I was just about past her she said Hi too me, and I was to far away to go back and return that greeting. SO I said hi....while walking. I wish I could have said something different. I usually do...
homophobia: an irrational fear of homosexuals
So we call a very christian (her mom is a minister of some very right wing church that even my catholic parents think is too extreme) friend of mine a homophobic. what does she say? scream...rather?
"I'M NOT AFRAID OF THEM"
"they cannot scare me!"
I went to see rent with her...and another friend. neither knew that there were gays in it. first thing after we get out of our seats afterwards...not even out of the theatre mind you...
Ah, because i have no where else to write this...
i had a dream, saturday night, that caught me very off guard. One, I rarley dream, two, they usually are not sexual dreams. SO. anyway. In my dream, i was having a bad day and said to this girl in (i guess my)apartment room that it was going to be a tiring day. So, i come home really tired and depressed...and i look to the bed, and there is this very attractive girl in a skimpy bunny suit..on all fours on the bed.
so i saw rent. again. this time with two friends, one of whom i'm out too(jessi).
we were walking outside the theatre afterwards...
jessi: it bothers me that peoplethink aids is a gay disease
me: yea, it's mostly spread by heterosexual women
jessi: yeah, sorry about that, our fault! (jokingly)
other friend: yeah! we're sorry! (indicating that her and jessi are sorry)
eh. so she implied that i am gay.
it's not my fault
but it's a pain
if i could choose,
i would change
would my childhood change also?
barbies replacing my trucks?
gowns replacing my pj pants?
panty hose my shorts?
heels transformed from dress shoes?
dress replacing my suit?
would that change everything else too?
what would happen?
would you love me more, accept me?
or regardless of what i am would i be shamed?
so many questions.
coach: (whilst we were doing pta(pain, torture, agony) for 25 minutes:
don't think about the running! think about what you're going to do when you get home, tv, think about your girlfriends! (pauses) and that's boyfriends to you (my name goes here)!
i start laughing
kid in back of me: yeah, think of your girlfriend (my name goes here)
ahh. if only my team knew that everyone on the team likes girls.
at dentist's office in waiting area...i was trying to figure out when i could eat next (30 minutes after i got my teeth cleaned) so i asked my mom refering to when did i get out of the dentists chair:
me: mom, when did i come out?
father: you came out? finally!
sister:where are your rainbows?
me: on what?
father and sister: coming out!
me: i meant the room not the closet.
Okay...so I was waiting with a couple of friends afterschool for the bus, three that have known me since i was either 6 or 12(Jacki,Sara,and Erica), the other since last year(Sam). Only one of them (Sara) knows I'm gay. SO this happened...
Sam-I heard someone in your guyses group is a lesbian.
Sara-Who said that?
Sam- I just heard it. I don't mean out of you four.But like all your friends.
Me-I bet it's (my extreamly straight friend with a boyfriend)Erica.
"If Jack is gay, he does not need your judgement, young man. The Lord above will be the one to judge him as he will all of us. What he needs from you, from me, from everyone else in this world is love and tolerance. If anything that boy must feel scared and alone and he will need the understanding of his fellow men to help him through this. Let's save judgement for someone much more experienced than you." ~Grams, from "Dawson's Creek"
**************** The Heterosexual Questionnaire ****************
1.When & how did you first decide you were a heterosexual?
2.Is it possible heterosexuality is a phase you may outgrow?
3.Isn't it possible that all you need is a good gay lover?
4.If heterosexuality is normal, why are a disproportionate number of mental patients heterosexual?
5.Why do heterosexuals feel compelled to seduce other into their sexual orientation?
Ok...I go to an accepting high school, where after an initial shock, no one seems to give a fiddlers fart whether you are straight or not. Already alot of people think that I am gay...and I do wish I could tell people, but I can't, incase it gets back to my parents. My family is very irish catholic, and my grandfather mentioned when I was little that I was the last hope of his, of all his grandchildren to become a nun. I have grown up very much with the catholic church, attending CCD (catholic sunday school) once a week since I was 3 years old to 8th grade. I am an alter server of over 4 years, and I now teach 4th grade CCD, and I went on a huge trip with our youth group this past summer. Next week I am going to be doing the readings (to my entire church). How much is too much? I tried really hard to believe in God, and the Church. I think religion was good to grow up it because it was a stable thing in my life. I still try to believe. But I simply can't. Two weeks ago I had to sign a satement (that I have to sign once a year) saying I was in full accordance with the roman catholic church, it's teachings, and (out of place i thought) that I thought abortion is wrong. I do think it's very wrong, and a horrible thing to do, but it's your choice, not mine. If you feel differently, I'm not going to let you not do somehting just because you believe in it, yet I don't.
I don't like this. Noi, I don't. It would be better if I KNEW I didn't have a chance with you. But...i might...in the future. I think you have similar uhm...actions as me. We were both hesitant to ask the other to be a lab partner, then were over joyed to work together. And I hope I don't go over board. But you seem more open to me. Neither of us are known for ever being open. So...oi. Yeah. I'll
This should be fast, I have to get up for 8am mass. Catholic church overload here.
SO I had a definite crush on this girl in 6th grade, a friend of a friend. I tried not to think of it as a crush...but I did invite her somewhere with me and I barley knew her. I picked her over friends of then 7 years. I thought it went away, because I knew I could never get her. She and I are the only people my big-mouth friend can honestly say no one knows who they like.