Coming Out: A Contrarian's "Take"

elph's picture

Truthfully... I don't know where I stand on this issue. I do know, however, that I dearly wish coming out didn't have to be such an onerous experience for so many...

Read Browne's essay... and learn what best serves your own situation:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/daniel-browne/is-there-a-need-to-come-out_...

jeff's picture

Eh...

Some muddled logic in there. Anytime someone says heterosexuals don't have to proclaim their sexuality, and their follow-up sentence mentions how things would work "in an ideal world," you know not much thinking has gone into that argument.

If you go into a high-end restaurant that offers one specific chef's tasting menu for all diners, you just order what you want to drink, and they start serving you food. If you want the vegetarian tasting menu, or if you have some specific food allergy and need a substitution, YOU have to specify that, since you are in the minority. The assumption in most social situations is that you are among the majority, and it is up to the minority to speak out. Plus, it's a waste of time to coddle the minority by asking EVERY diner if they are vegetarian, or have specific food allergies, since 90% of people all want the same thing.

Plus, someone who started coming out many years ago, his entire family knows, he writes a column on gay issues AND runs an LGBT charity doesn't feel the need to come out anymore?! What a surprise. That's because this person *is* fully out. I rarely come out anymore, too, but it's because everyone knows... it isn't that I'm making some choice.

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MacAvity's picture

Hmm...

Sounds to me like he's just supporting what Jeff's always said: Don't "come out," just be out. Not to make a scene of it. Seems about right. Unless you're in a closet, in which case...
I am not contributing anything to this discussion, so I'll shut up now....